10 Things Adults with ADHD Would Like Their Partners To Know

1) I am a person, I have feelings, the capacity to give and receive love, and I yearn for compassion, understanding and caring in my life, just as you do. My thinking process and my learning style may be different, but that does not change my emotional needs.

2) Remember to find joy in my uniqueness.

3) Never assume that a careless word was intentional until you talk it over with me.

4) Take the time to learn as much as you can about ADHD. Learning about it validates me.

5) Acknowledge my positive attributes and strengths and don't dwell on my faults and shortcomings.

6) I have ADHD, I cannot get over it or get rid of it. However, I can learn to manage the symptoms. Some days I will be better at this than others.

7) I do not use ADHD as an excuse, BUT IT IS AN INTRIGATED PART OF ME

8) ADHD can cause me to be distracted. If you have something important to discuss, please save it for a time when distractions are at a minimum. Sit down with me, turn off the TV, and make sure the kids are in bed.

9) Affirm that I am loveable and you love me in spite of my faults.

10) Because I have ADHD, don't conclude that all relationship problems are my fault. Acknowledge your responsibilities for relationship difficulties and take corrective action, treating me like an equal partner shows you respect me as a person.

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